Putting your balls on the table

My brother - a true male who puts his balls right out there on the table constantly for love, or the hope of love.

Now is the time where I eat my words from my last entry...or will I?

Out to lunch to enjoy the last few days of the holidays with 2 of my girlfriends, we discussed the new relationship that was starting out in full force with one of them and a member of the opposite sex.  Far from a traditional relationship but also the most traditional you can get...but thats for another time....the real story came after lunch when I walked to 'Berry Good' - a recently found delight of a frozen yoghurt store in Central - with my friend and we bumped into the owner of the store - Jon.

Now Jon is a friend of the friend I am with and they start talking.  He seems a very interesting, funny, open and cute guy.  Somehow the talking comes around to all of us being commitment phobics and as the catch up goes on my friend starts to question Jon about the new girl he is seeing.

He starts out by subtly asking my friend what she has heard or thinks about the girl, she calls him out on what he thinks, he admits people think she is a bitch and also says she's a little reserved (weird combination, I know).  It then comes out that he has just been to meet her parents for the CNY holiday..........WTF??? - he only stated dating her a Christmas - literally Christmas Eve.  So he plays it down, saying that, well, it was just really a holiday for him and he knew it was a little important but didn't realise how important it would be for her.  My friend knowing Jon well, questions him further and he ends up admitting he did know it was a big deal. 

My friend then goes onto ask if they have picked out a ring yet - as you can imagine, there is me standing there opened mouth thinking 'This poor guy' - he of course replies 'What?' and then looks to me for my support, which of course he has!

My friend then goes on to probe him further:

"Come on, I know you.....(and such and such)"

He replies 'Well we both do want to have a family young!'

Immediately my eyes go wide and I start laughing.  Talk about putting your balls out there on the table.  

Here we are looking for (or just having fun until he arrives) the guy that will have some balls and lay it all out on the table - being bad news or not - and here is one right in front of me.  Telling me that he was manning up and putting his balls right out there on the table - I believe those exact words came out of his mouth at one point too!

FAR OUT! So are genuine guys - balls and all - actually out there?  I asked the question in the last entry and now I may have my answer.

But wait.......of course.......it is too good to be true - He's Christian.

Not an issue in itself, but that then poses the questions - Are all the good ones god faring and because I am not saved, does that mean I won't find a boy putting his balls on the table for me?

Also, he met his current at a speed dating event (Christians only), or so I believe (I may have got that wrong).

So hmmmmmmmmm, men that can grow some balls and use them - YES, they are out there.  Men that can grow some balls, use them and live in Hong Kong - 1.  

We could however check out the local churches! Watch out - lord here we come!

Amen,

Love RSG! xo

OMG....he's married!

In LKF, but with a decent married guy, one of the good 50%.  Go Gav, you are a winner!

Last week some friends and I were out and about, out on the town enjoying a few drinks, some nibbles and then heading off for a wee dance.

After more than a few hours on the dance floor (try around 4 and a half by this stage), we had meet a few guys and there was one particular groover that caught my friends eye.  He started dancing with us, they started talking and then went off to a quieter spot so they could properly chat (no funny business involved).

They were having great conversation, found out they knew mutual people in Hong Kong and she even gave him her number.  He messaged her as soon as she got home and being in this day in age, things looked promising, maybe a few dates might ensue.

Living in the technological world that we live in and with the Facebook era staring us in the face at every turn, my friend (a few drinks under her belt), entered in his name and as they had a mutual friend could see his information and photos.  Imagine her surprise when she saw that his information read: MARRIED!!!!!

After living in Hong Kong for a few months I have this theory about the men here:

50% of men live here - Half of those are married with young families or came here with girlfriends.  The other half are the gross men who are here to do what the men that I dealt with in China were there to do - meet young asian girls, frequent the lady bars and get whatever they can get. G.R.O.S.S!!!!

The other 50% are tourists or businessmen - here for a good time, not a long time.

Can you see our real single girl dilemma!

This brings me back to the married man situation.  Not that I have had many instances with men here, but on a few ventures into Lang Kwai Fong - the bar street famous for tourists and cheap happy hour specials - we have had some great times and conversations with some men.  They seemed great and very interested until one of my friends spotted a wedding ring - 

'Are you married?'

'Argh, ummmmmmm, hmmmm.......'

I mean seriously.  This has happened twice and now this being the third time in 3 months - what are we supposed to think???  And people wonder why we have issues with trust.  We see this on a regular basis - men supposedly married to the best thing that has ever happened to them - and they are out hitting on and trying to get in to the pants of other women!

WHAT ARE THEY THINKING!?

How stupid was this other guy who gave his name and number to my friend and even when he discovered they had mutual friends, still kept up the facade and contacted her, keeping his wedding ring on his pinky finger - what a fruitcake!

In this day in age and with technology as it is - How dumb can men, well.......boys, be?

Trust issues - our issues or caused by theirs?  

I know that this situation is slightly isolated to this part of the world, however, when will WE meet some real men that will not drive us out onto the streets and on the speaker phone with our girlfriends yelling-

OH, MY, GOD........HE'S MARRIED!!!!!!!!!

I know some real men are out there because I know some....they just don't live in Hong Kong!

Love RSG xo

Old school, new school

According to my Dad being a 26 year old girl means that I am not young anymore.  Now he's not talking about not being a teenager or needing to grow up, just what old implies - I should be financially stable, have a career and a good man.

Living in the society that we live in today has a few contradictions to this school of thought - take Sex and the City for instance - four 30 something females, having rampant sex and dating different guys every night of the week, spending their money on god knows what (shoes) - is this really what old is about?  What about the marriage, babies and financial security....where does that all fit in and when did old come back to haunt us in our mid 20's.  Isn't 40 the new old?

Well, in response to my Dads thoughts, he has been proven right this week.  As it is Chinese New Year school is off for nearly 2 blissful weeks which has left the ladies that have stayed in the country, to try out our local ladies night scene.  These take place during the week, so on Wednesday it was off to have free drinks and survey the scene.   Needless to say, being the fun ladies we are, the night was a very late one, leaving a lot of time the next day to couch dwell.  After a swift recovery (read: sarcasm), we were ready for a night out on Friday.  Now today is Saturday and I am sure that you can already see the pattern emerging! Another day on the couch ensued!

Ladies nights last night (above) and Wednesday night (top)

Now laying here on the floor, basking in my day after the night before glory (or morning as it was) I am pondering the ever occurring thought, 'God, back in the day I could go out every night to all hours and then work and then do it all over again'.  But in all honesty this was never really true in my case, I could never really do this and never really wanted too.  I worked 2 jobs and then went to Teachers College and worked full time at night just to put myself through college, who had time or energy for partying and where could I fit it in?

Now not to put the sob story on you but now I am wondering was I old WAY before my time?  And if so, does that mean now I can live it up and act more like a 'young' person, say in the nature of a university student?

I wonder if my bank will take that as an explanation as to why my Visa is maxed out to it's MASSIVE limit with nothing to show for it!  Financially stable in my mid 20's, my bum!

Sorry Dad, looks like you'll have a young daughter for a few more years until I finally get my act together, recovery days or no recovery days....hmmmmm.....think a Sunday brunch drinking session is in order...I have Monday to recover!

Love RSG xo

The naked reality

What does it take to be a single lady in a big city? 

Don't ask me....I really have no idea! 

A real single girls reality - traveling to China to get her eyebrows waxed!

Men, label clothes, makeovers, limousines, all night partying, looking fabulous everyday? - scripted tv and movies, NOT reality.  

Reality for the real single girl would be: boys who don't know what they want, H and M clothes, slapping on the makeup from over the counter stores, public transport, drunken nights out dancing on the bar (oops, that wasn't supposed to leave the bar) and frizzy humidity hair!  

Yes siree, that is the reality of THIS real single girl living in her version of the big city - Hong Kong.

I don't pretend to know much or even anything, but I do know about my life and it is NOT the stuff they show you on tv or reality shows.  My life is no Sex and the City, but it is real.

..........so here we go!

Love RSG xo