A few weeks ago, on an ill fated night, I was out at a social event with my new sports team. Waaayyy too many drinks were had and embarrassingly enough, I was with people I hardly knew AND later I found out they put me in a taxi - hmmm so that's how I got home! Next thing I knew I woke up in my slip, a pile of clothes strewn beside the bed and the worst hangover ever- actually it can't really be classed as a hangover when you are still drunk!
As I groaned and rolled over, my hand hit my cellphone buried beneath my covers - what the hell? Next thing I discovered a business card...hmmm...whats that doing there??...oh god, oh no...vague, vague memories force their way into my cloudy head....I didnt did I??
Yep, I sure did! Drunk dialing!!!! How humiliating...not only do I have no recollection of doing it but I have no idea if I even talked to the person!!
Mortification aside...it got me thinking. Really, in my way of thinking a business card is a HUGE fob off. Granted I don't remember getting it...and it was probably given in between all the moshing and the next tequilla shot...but seriously, and I have never really thought about this before because I have never really cared, but every single time I have received a business card whether out on the town or purely for business purposes, I have never, ever heard from that person. Now, I have no idea if that is saying something just about me as a person or if it really is just the boys way of FOBBING off a girl!
Then it hit me....the scene from 'He's just not that into you'. So, for the purpose of this entry (and me being me, it really annoyed me that I couldn't remember it), of course I had to view it again to really get the idea and to remember exactly what was said.
Guy 'I would really love to call you, do you have a card (get's hers), well here's mine....I look forward to hearing from you'
Girl - classic reaction from a movie - interrogates him about who is actually going to do the communicating first etc etc, guy is called out, and leaves thinking that the girl is a psycho. Hang on a minute...how is that fair!
In my case obviously it was a kind of, here is my card, look forward to hearing from you sometime, you are so drunk you won't remember who I am and neither will I, receives one or a number (?) of slurred messages from a girl on his phone...thanks the lord he didn't commit to anything more!
It seems that giving the girl the business card not only is saying 'look at me and what I do - it's right there on my "business card", it also breaks the traditional way of boy contacts girl down to: "Nah, I don't need to do the chasing, lots of girls want me, here, I'll give you my "business card" and you chase me". Hong Kong seems to be full of that kind of attitude, so shoot me if I am wrong but I am happy to view it as the way it is here. Well, maybe not happy but 'accept' is more the right word.
Although I am still part traditionalist in my dating ways, I am not naive to the fact that only boys should contact girls if they are interested, however, just the way it is gone about in regards to guys dealing out thier cards is very off-putting.
Needless to say, when I recieved a call from a girl claiming that I had called her at 5am (well that solves the mystery of what time I got home), I promptly denied it and made a pact, never, ever to recieve a business card on a drunken night out - let him ring because apparently in HK, business card giving is a token worth Nada!
I tell you, a RSG always learns the hard way- but we always end up laughing about it (well...most of the time anyway!)
Love RSG
P.S - I wrote this blog a few weeks ago and have not had a chance to post it yet and have since had a development. Recent Update:The other day I recieved 2 missed calls and a message on my phone. Turns out it was this guy, asking who it was that had left messages on his WORK PHONE at 5am. Long story short, apparently he hadn't checked his messages until then and he had no idea who I was...needless to say after a few text messages back and forth re-confirming who we were...I know for a fact that we will NOT be seeking each other out again....curse of the business card...CASE AND POINT!
