How hard is it to love the one you are with? What one?

I mean really...who can handle this 'out of control' jandal?

Speaking to a friend via skype conversation the other day he asked me if I was achieving my 'goal'.  He was referring to my goal of finding a guy to 'have fun' with.  Being only at least a week since our last conversation I was flabbergast....

Is he kidding...seriously...it has been a week (maybe 3!), and he expects me to already have a guy on the go...just one laying around ready for my call...one not to fall in love with, just one on the wings..waiting...just waiting....does he know where I live??? 

I mean seriously! My answer was of course one of the most pissed off and pride driven answers (he thinks it just happens to me like that....right on!) -  'I don't know why everyone thinks I can just go out and get a guy!!??!? - was my actual "pissed off" answer.

I mean not just this friend but my dad and also my brother are totally on this band wagon!  My friends on the other hand (NZ and over the seas) are totally not bugging me about this.  Do I take this as pure honesty or just a realistic reaction ("Amy, we have been there, we actually know what it is like for a girl in the real world"), or is it just embarrassment (secretly thinking..."Well why don't you have a guy")

Cries of frustration come from my corner...."Please tell me how...make it easy for me....tell me the secret...what do I have to do?'

My friend replied to my answer with a simple "cos u can" - Yes, this is directly copied from the skype conversation!

Oh, the simple mindedness of boys.

Now, my dearly loved brother is totally not escaping this post...every time I am home we end up in the same argument.  He proclaims "Girls can get action whenever they want".  After awhile this is followed by "But they might not want the ones that want it"

Well, I totally agree but with the opposite...guys can totally have 'interested' girls...they are just not attracted to them.

In my opinion (and I am sure some people will shoot me for this...), but guys are the WORST at the above scenario.  When a girl wants it, she WANTS it.  When a guy does, he is PICKY!

Maybe it comes down to the underlying issue....maybe girls in the interim are looking for fun, but in the long run are looking for the long term?

But isn't everyone?

Isn't the point of life, recreating, falling in love and finding the one you love and NOT just loving the one you are with?

I would love to hear others take on this especially single girls out there....and not the disgruntled males (like have commented on previous posts! Yes, you know who you are!)

Who really does know what they want in their 20's (and if you do...keep your mouth shut! haha) -isn't your 20's all about fun?

Love RSG!! xoxo